Eulogies & Obituaries

Guidance for Writing a Meaningful Eulogy or Obituary

Giving a meaningful eulogy or writing an obituary can feel overwhelming, even for the most accomplished public speaker. We’ve gathered helpful tips to guide you through the process.

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Eulogies

What to Consider

Being chosen to give a eulogy is a meaningful honor and should be approached with care and respect. In just a few short minutes, you’re asked to reflect an entire life—capturing personality, relationships, memories, and values—while balancing moments of sorrow with warmth and, at times, gentle humor. It’s a deeply personal responsibility, and it’s natural to feel unsure about where to begin.


Writing and delivering a eulogy can also be a powerful and therapeutic part of the grieving process. It offers an opportunity to honor a loved one’s life, reflect on what they meant to others, and share memories that bring comfort and connection.


Below are some steps to help you write and deliver an eloquent, heartfelt, and memorable eulogy. 

Start with Reflection

Take time to reflect on your loved one’s life, personality, and values. Think about what made them unique, the roles they played, and the moments that best represent who they were. You don’t need to tell their entire life story—focus on what truly mattered.

Gather Memories & Input

Reach out to family members or friends for stories, memories, or traits they remember most. This can help you feel less alone in the process and ensure the eulogy reflects a fuller picture of the person’s life.

Keep it Personal & Sincere

A meaningful eulogy doesn’t need to be formal or poetic. Speaking from the heart is what resonates most. Use your natural voice and share genuine thoughts, even if they are simple.

Balance Emotion with Lightness

While a eulogy is a solemn tribute, it’s appropriate to include warmth or gentle humor when it feels natural. A light moment can bring comfort and remind everyone of the joy your loved one brought into their lives.

Organize Your Thoughts

A simple structure can help calm nerves. Consider beginning with an introduction, sharing a few key memories or themes, and closing with a final reflection or message of gratitude.

Write it Down

Even if you don’t plan to read directly from your notes, writing the eulogy helps organize your thoughts and ensures you don’t forget important points. Having a written copy can also be comforting if emotions run high. It’s wise to have a backup plan by asking someone you trust to deliver the eulogy if needed, and to provide them with a copy well in advance.

Practice Aloud

Reading the eulogy out loud helps you find a natural rhythm and estimate timing. It also builds confidence and allows you to make small adjustments for clarity or flow. It’s okay to pause, take a breath, or show emotion. Speaking slowly helps your words land and gives you time to collect yourself if needed.

Remember the Purpose

A eulogy is not about perfection—it’s about honoring a life and offering comfort to those gathered. Your sincerity matters far more than flawless delivery.

Be Kind to Yourself

Grief affects everyone differently. Allow yourself grace throughout the process and during delivery. Simply standing up and speaking is an act of love and courage.

Obituaries

Obituary Template

Writing an obituary is a difficult and emotional task. Begin by gathering information from family and friends about the deceased’s childhood, education, career, hobbies, and interests. You should also speak with the funeral home to obtain important details such as the date, time, and location of the service or any other related events.

Using the template below can help make the process easier and ensure the obituary is clearly written and properly structured.
Instructions: Replace all items in brackets below with the appropriate information. Keep in mind that most newspapers charge by the word. 

This template is designed to include all the necessary information as efficiently as possible, but it is not set in stone—you can make any adjustments you feel are appropriate.

(Name of Deceased) passed away peacefully on (Date of Death) at the age of (Age).

He/She will be forever missed by his/her loving husband/wife, (Name). Cherished by his/her children, (Names...). Proud grandfather/grandmother to, (Names...). (Name of Deceased) will always be remembered by his/her siblings, (Names…). (Name of Deceased) is predeceased by (list predeceased relation and name). He/She will be held dear in the hearts of his/her family, relatives, and many friends.

(Can include special notes about your loved one; where they were born, life growing up, type of work they did most of life, activities or hobbies they enjoyed etc.)

Visitations will take place at the (Location) & (Address) on (Date), from (Time(s). Funeral Service or Celebration of Life will be held at (Location) & (Address) on (Date) at (Time(s). Interment to follow (can include cemetery info).

If so desired, donations in memory of (Name of Deceased) may be made to the (name of charity/charities).